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LGBTQ+ international travel tips

Shelly  Gigante

Posted on January 25, 2023

Shelly Gigante specializes in personal finance issues. Her work has appeared in a variety of publications and news websites.
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Provide sources to help you research the best—and the worst—destinations for LGBTQ+ travelers. 

Outline the specific documents LGBTQ+ parents should bring with them when they leave the U.S. 

Suggest tips to help protect yourself and your family while traveling abroad. 

Researching destinations for your next vacation getaway may be part of the fun, but for LGBTQ+ world travelers — especially those with kids — it is also an important step to ensuring a safe and enjoyable trip.

Tolerance and legal rights for the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning community vary dramatically throughout the world. Even in countries where marriage equality laws exist, LGBTQ+ travelers may still face discrimination and harassment or be made to feel unwelcome — some hotels or resorts in remote overseas areas, for example, may refuse bookings from same-sex couples.

“When you travel internationally there is a lot more research that needs to go into it,” said John Tanzella, president and chief executive of the International Gay & Lesbian Travel Association in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida, in an interview. “It’s more precarious.”

According to the U.S. Department of State, some countries may not legally recognize same-sex marriage and more than 70 consider consensual same-sex sexual relations to be a crime, which is sometimes punished severely.

In the most homophobic foreign territories, LGBTQ+ public displays of affection could result in fines or jail time — in addition to the wider threat of physical attack.

“Straight couples don’t necessarily have to worry about legalities in the same way that same-sex couples do when going abroad,” said Tanzella. “Something could happen and the next thing you know you’re in jail because you have no rights.”

Before you go: Laws and LGBTQ+

Whether traveling solo, with a partner, or with your kids, it is important to do your homework thoroughly before you book a flight.

The State Department recommends LGBTQ+ travelers review important country information on the website of the U.S. embassy or consulate where they plan to travel.

The government also advises LGBTQ+ travelers to bring with them copies of important documents when crossing borders, especially if they are heading to a country where they may not be afforded the same legal protections as in the United States. Such paperwork includes a living will or health care directive, contact information for your family and/or attorney back home in the United States, and parentage or custody documents for any minor children in tow (particularly if they have a different last name).

Some legal experts also recommend that LGBTQ+ parents have an attorney draft a health care proxy for both parents, so each parent has the right to make medical decisions for each other and their kids. (Related: LGBTQ parenting challenges)

Same-sex travelers should also keep handy the address and phone number of the nearest U.S. embassy or consulate, in both English and the local language.

Another tip? Enroll in the Smart Traveler Enrollment Program (STEP), a free service for U.S. citizens traveling or living abroad. The State Department will send travel warnings, alerts and emergency messages based on your upcoming trip. It will also contact you in case of emergency when you are traveling using the email or phone number you provide.

Remember, you are subject to the laws and the justice system of whatever country you visit. As such, it’s wise to familiarize yourself with the local laws impacting LGBTQ+ individuals. Business Insider magazine culled together a collection of maps that illustrate how drastically sexual orientation laws differ across the globe. (Related: LGBTQ+ marriage perks)

Top LGBTQ+ destinations … and not

While LGBTQ+ travelers need not limit themselves to destinations with a history of hospitality, it may make for a better overall experience to visit places that regularly make the top 10 list of gay and lesbian friendly locales, including Tel Aviv, Copenhagen, and Toronto. The Lonely Planet offers more LGBTQ+ hotspots on its website , as does Out Traveler magazine’s global destination guide .

Similarly, it’s possible to book packages that include entertainment, hotels, and airlines that embrace LGBTQ+ consumers.

Many travel sites, including Expedia, provide filters for hotels that are gay/lesbian friendly. Indeed some hotels, like Marriott , bill themselves as committed to treating gay and lesbian guests with respect. Some travel companies, including OUT Adventures and Detours, also cater to gay and lesbian travelers, with all-inclusive resorts, cruises and tours. Importantly, “Out Traveler” also publishes a list of the top destinations where anti-gay laws or sentiment may encourage the persecution of LGBTQ+ individuals.

While traveling on vacation

Once you get to where you’re going, the State Department advises LGBTQ+ travelers to avoid potentially risky situations and to be wary of entrapment campaigns when reaching out to the local community, as police in some countries monitor websites, mobile apps, and meeting places.

To prevent avoidable problems, Tanzella said LGBTQ+ couples – and everyone else – should “be mindful” of local culture. “Even straight people should not show up in the Middle East and wear their bikinis in public,” he said. “Do a little homework on the culture and laws so you don’t get into trouble.”

In more conservative corners of the globe, where LGBTQ+ couples might face discrimination (or worse), lesbian blogger Jen Bauer suggests in her 2013 article for that same sex couples potentially avoid behavior that calls attention to their sexual orientation, including physical displays of affection.

And Adam Groffman, a self-professed gay travel expert and blogger, added in a prior column for that LGBTQ+ travelers should carefully consider the wisdom of “outing” themselves to strangers they meet during their travels. Be mindful of circumstances.

Same sex parents

If safety is a concern, same-sex parents may also wish to coach their kids on how they address each other, at least temporarily while they are abroad, lest a declaration of “mommy and momma” create unwanted attention.

“LGBTQ+ parents need to make sure they have all their ducks in a row before leaving the country,” said Tanzella. “That is always a challenge, especially if their children are adopted.”

Travel builds bridges

The potential challenges that gay and lesbian individuals face when traveling abroad are no reason to stay home on the couch. Travel is an excellent way to broaden your horizon and shake off the cobwebs. It also fosters a more global perspective.

“International travel has huge benefits,” said Tanzella. “It builds bridges and helps us understand different cultures and ways of life. If you stay home in your bubble, you don’t experience the world.”

As Mark Twain said …

Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.

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This article was originally published in December 2016. It has been updated. 

1 State Department, "LGBTI travelers,” Nov. 6, 2019.

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